noun. lamentation - wail - plaint - mourning - moan - elegy
verb. mourn - wail - moan - bewail - bemoan - weep - deplore
Advice to all survivors; no victims-- I really want to say victims because that's the reality; I was a victim, at the time. I still feel like a victim, but I know I've survived for the most part. Yes, emotionally I am still terribly bruised and yes, still feel physical affects as well, like headaches, nauseous and fatigue. Back to my advice, one should contemplate in their mind what the other person's reaction may be, so that you have a plan of how to respond, react and deal with this event of "the big tell".
We all have a "big tell", no matter the secret; that one person who we just couldn't/can't/won't, would rather die tell. Whether it is mother, father, clergy, doctor, best friend, partner, spouse, co-worker, therapist, we all have difficulty with one certain person, the most. For me it took over 20 years to tell my husband, which I just did yesterday during a heated discussion about our relationship or lack of it.
P.S. If you're curious what my husband said to me visit me at https://twitter.com/mymindscloset